Jason: I happened
to find this site while surfing the SDU webpage.
Anne:What was your
intention when creating profiles? Did you do it specifically to
find dates and love or just to try the website out for fun?
Coniel: I wasnít
looking for anyone. Ha haÖI did it out of fun.
Jason: I wasnít looking
for someone in particular at that moment caused I just broke off with my
ex of three years relationship. My sole purpose was to make more friends
and to be more sociable and active as a single.
did you post your profiles on Singapore Cupid?
Coniel: Late July 2003.
Jason: Some time back in
What titles and descriptions did you use for the profiles?
Coniel: Mine was ďBig
eyes and a great smileí or something similar.
Jason: Mine was simply
"UNBREAK MY HEART".
Anne: Did you both have
deluxe memberships? If so, what made you or your girlfriend upgrade to a
deluxe membership? Was it to specifically contact each other? :)
Coniel: What deluxe
membership?? Was there shall an account? LOL!!
upgraded mine to a deluxe membership as it allows me to make use of the
full features and to contact other members. Without it, I wouldnít
have found Coniel.
Anne: How long were you members before learning about
Coniel: 2 days.
Jason: About 5 months?
Anne: Who contacted whom first? What attracted
your girlfriend to your profile? What attracted you to your girlfriend's
profile? Did you both have pictures posted?
Jason: She did! Coniel
contacted me on our fourth night of still exchanging emails but
unfortunately, I was in a middle of a competition and she was pretty
upset over it but I called her back shortly after. We werenít
attracted to each otherís profile at all. For Coniel, she was touched
by those emails that Iíve send her and she found it rather hard not to
respond/reply to it and as for myself, I was bewitched by her photo
which she posted. It has got nothing to do with her look. It was
something else. Something which flows through my blood vessels and heart
which brought warmth to my life and unknowingly, without any hesitation
or reading her profile, I clicked on the contact now button. Yes, we
both have pictures posted in our profile.
Anne: Can you please send us the original emails to
Jason: Definitely :)
Sunday, July 27, 2003
To be friends.
Hello....not a very charming start out
line but that's just me. Like you, I would like to widen my
circle of friends cos of the fact that I'm pretty much an
introvert and i dun really talk much and that make me a rather
boring person at times and knowing the fact that women love
their men to know alot of things and are able to talk about
anything under the sky...
I see differently otherwise at times.
have my different views cos i work in a totally different
environment compared to the normal human being. Not good
looking but i'm someone who's really very serious when it
comes to relationship but unfortunately, i tend to be
sensitive at times cos i have this desire in me whereby the
only attention that i ever needed in this world is from the
one that I love...wouldn't you like your other half to shower
that sort of attention on you too?
No, i'm not talking about being
possesiveness...i'm talking bout always having that special
spot reserved just for that very special someone? I'm 27 this
year, stands at 1.78m...half my blood is malaysian... if you
think I'm worthy enough to be in that circle of yours, do
reply me via email ____ or sms me at ____.
Stay happy and cheerful always :)
thanks for sending me your
Coniel, is the name given by my mother
since I was a baby girl but now she likes to call me Mei
(including my family & relatives)....very funny right?
haha........ Anyway, my friends still call me Coniel.
I am 26 going to be 27 years old this
year.....Leo.....22nd Aug...... Not a quiet type but
also not a noisy one.....
ribe myself.........mm............a bit
difficult..............have big eyes &
smile............brown curly long hair.......... height 165cm,
weight 53kg...............not ugly looking.........ha
ha...........but my friends always say that I act different
from how i looked, because my "outlook" looked like
"cheong kaki", like that kind of people like to go
o, but i m not actually........ ( i think u can see from the
I like watching movie, vcd, tv and
listening song (these are the most i do normally). will go
shopping or windows shopping on weekends. I don't like to go
o because there are always very crowded & i don't like the
smell of smoke (sorry to said that if u like di
o & smoke)........
I am working as an export customer
service in changi airfreight centre. I m always busy with my
works, that's why i seldom go out with my friends and still be
single now, ha ha......
What do u mean by u work in a totally
different environment compared to the normal human being? Any
special career, just curious.....
I need to go for my work now, talk to u
Anne: Did reading each
others profile and email, help you learn about each other before you
made the first call?
Jason: Not really. It was
when we finally meet up that we really got to know each other inside
out. The profiles were superficial.
Anne: Were you nervous when you
first called to say hi? What did
you speak about on the first conversation? Was it a long talk?
How often did you talk after that?
Jason: I was but Coniel
was cool. She just wanted to hear the voice of that person who has
touched her heart. We spoke about everything and we were both eager to
find out what we were both doing at that moment on different end of the
line. It was shortÖabout half an hour but it was a good start and
memorable. We talk to each other twice a day on the average ever since.
Anne: Did you feel different
relating with each other as compared to the other people you dated
before (if any)?
Coniel: Heís a sweet
guy! Caring, comfortable and understanding. Best of all, I fell in love
with him before I even met him in person. Iíve never fall so deeply in
Jason: Coniel was a dream
come true to me. My past girlfriends can only be considered as
farfetched compared to Coniel. They couldnít hold a candle to her in
my opinion cause she really made me fell deeply in love and Iíve never
been so happy in any of my relationship.
Anne: Who suggested hanging up the
phone first? J
Jason: Nobody! We canít
bear to part with each other but Iím always the one who convince both
of us to hang up cause we have the tendency to just go on throughout the
Anne: How much later did you meet in person? Can you
please provide more intimate insight into your initial feelings about
meeting your girlfriend for the first time? Could your girlfriend
provide the answer to this question too? How different was the actual
meeting than email correspondence and phone conversations? Did each of
you meet the other's expectations?
took about a week before we met up. We did some planning on our work
schedule in order to meet up. I was nervous and worried if I might
disappoint her but she was all cool and easy. In fact, she kept
assuring me that it wasnít my look that attracts her. It was my word
that has touched her. She did ask me if I was disappointed with her
turn out on our first date as she looked totally different from her
profile photo. I simply told her that sheíd turn out to be
betterÖmuch more better that what I was expecting.
BE YOURSELF! Thatís our expectation for each other. Both Coniel and
I believe that it is important that we must be able to accept both
good and bad characteristic/personality that we possess rather than to
put on a good side all the time. Itíll be like cheating on the other
party if we did put on a mask on the first date that might
subsequently cause friction and
scars as time goes by.
We were definitely more loving in person than the emails and telephone
Anne: Did you date a lot
before meeting each other?
Coniel: The same goes for
me but I tend to be home bound most of the time.
Jason: Not at all. I
wasnít dating anyone specific or rather, I was out in a group or with
my good friend most of the time.
Anne:How long were you
Single before you finding each other?
Coniel: About 6 months.
Jason: A couple of
Anne: Do you think you might have
met by chance without Singapore Cupid's help?
Coniel: We were so near
yet so far apart from each other (we live like an overhead bridge away
from each other). If I hadnít placed my profile on
, I guess he would have never found me then.
Jason: Well, itís
pretty hard to comment on that. I guess I would have met someone else if
I didnít sign up with
and probably end up miserable for the rest of my life. Iím glad that
Iíve signed up and my perseverance paid off. :)
has finding each other changed your lives?
Are you sharing new activities together? How often do you meet
each other? What are some of the most romantic things you've done
together? What has been your most memorable day together?
meet up almost everyday. We canít stand the thought of not
hearing from or seeing each other. Itís due to the fact that
he works on shift and I always put in overtime for my work. We
do have our own programs but we have always preferred to be together
at all time if possible.
Iíve been a better man ever since. Coniel has healed my broken
heart. I have proved her wrong on her perception of how
Singaporean men had always turned out to be petty,
scheming and always having ulterior motive when they try to date an
expatriate woman in
. She has had bad experience with some local men in
when she first arrived here.
millisecond spent together was like Valentineís Day. Isnít
that romantic? We really love being together and best of all, we
love being seen together as an item but if you need something more
definite, that would be going sightseeing with her in
every time we meet up.
Anne: Do you have any interesting
experiences to share with us, while you were a member on Singapore
didnít really had the opportunity to explore much but receiving up to
100 over emails a day from male members was astonishing yet tiring.
Having to find Jason in this big ocean is really heartfelt.
Jason: That would be
signing up for the Deluxe Membership. It helped me in being able
to take a bigger step into getting to know more friends and eventually,
finding Coniel. That, was the biggest reward of all.
Anne: If there is was one thing
you would like to share with other members on our site who are still
searching for their love, what would it be?
Jason & Coniel: JUST BE
YOURSELF! Donít ever try too hard or act too desperate. Slow
down your paces, donít rush into things. If you like someone,
make the move but donít expect instant results or response from the
other party. Sometimes, the waiting game does pay off. We
are all working adults, career is still a priority to us. If
things happen fast, itís a bonus and never a must. Donít be
shallow! Looks are not everything, wealth should never be a major
factor. As long as you are happy with each other, sit down and
discuss about the future. Do some quality planning. For men, be a
gentleman, donít be too egoistic! For ladies, have more patience
with the men. Donít jump on them when they do something wrong or
have said something wrong. Point out to them the area that they
could have made a mistake and discuss it with them.
Anne: Do you think it is difficult
to find true love in Singapore? If
Coniel: Due to the fact
that I have had bad experience with Singaporean men whom have had ill
intention upon me in the past, I have actually given up hope on them
till Jason came along. He has proven me wrong in a certain sense
and I couldnít believe that I have fallen for him so deeply. Not
all Singaporean men are that bad. At least my Jase isnít.
Jason: I believe that the
standard of living and job requirements are the main elements that have
contributed to singlehood in
. It is not really that difficult to find true love locally, it is
difficult to find time for your true love. Hey, we live in a
material world. We just have to take a break from it once in
Anne: Is there
anything you'd like us to know?
Please let us know what we can do to be more effective in helping other
Singles find love in Singapore.
Coniel & Jason: The
site is great. You might wanna consider throwing in a free 7 days deluxe
membership trial for those who canít afford or who are reluctant to
pay for something whereby they canít see the real result. Convince
them that it really work. Otherwise, it could have been their own
profile creation that has a defect on themselves. Constantly review
their profiles and give most specific advises on how a good profile
should also reflect their most truthful individualistic as close as
possible in real life. Never create a story-based profile.